The dangers of People Pleasing

If he had a conversation with his mother, his sister, his aunt, his grandparents, whoever he had an interaction with – he would change himself to fit their expectations so that he would be accepted by those other people.

Now, he didn’t see it this way, he felt he was people-pleasing.

He felt like he was making it easier for those other people.

He was appeasing their expectations.

Think about people in your life who may do something similar, if you look at the image below, you’ll see that a man is holding three identities in his hand and essentially my ex was picking through identities that were available to him and putting them on before showing up and having an interaction with people.

This is exhausting.

This causes so many complications with how you show up in your reality.

We use vibration in our reality to create each experience so if we’re showing up at a different vibration and as a different person – that causes problems when we go to create our life.

Are you creating your life based on your own perceptions, ideals, and values or are you creating a life based on what someone else wants for you or expects from you?

This is where we often get stuck!

One of the main questions that I ask my clients is:

WHOSE IS THAT?!

If you have a desire, if you have a fear, if you have a doubt, if you have a pain in your body – that could belong to someone else!

Especially when you’re used to tuning into what other people perceive, expect, conclude, and judge of you – and you act accordingly based on their perceptions, expectations, conclusions, awarenesses, and judgments.

But when we look at how aware we need to be if we are a people pleaser, and if we do wear different hats or different personalities, or different aspects of ourselves, based on who we are talking to, who we are engaged with, who we are experiencing – we have to be so highly aware of what that other person expects us to be and we do this on such a deep unconscious level.

If we could release all of that who would we be?

Who would we be?

We still have that awareness.

We still would have that heightened intuition because that is a clairsentient skill – to have that deep level of perception and awareness, and Intuitiveness and we can keep that as long as it is working for us.

Check in with how much of your energy is going to the perception of what other people expect of you.

Test these Anchors and see if there’s one that has some good energy for you to work with:

One

If I were to eject all outside energy and command my highest vibrational self to create my next steps what would that look like?

Two

Why is it so safe for me to be myself?

Three

Why is it so safe for me to own my own unique character and power?

*Grab the pdf by clicking the image above and download a new pdf cheatsheet with TEN Anchors to check in with and create new energy around standing in your power and creating from your personal power. 

Ohhhh, by the way!

I am soon opening the doors to my newest program called – Command!

This is where you detach from other people’s expectations of you, you return to your own commanding presence of self, and you create a blueprint for you to move forward and create the best year possible.

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in, send me a DM on FB and I’ll fill you in on the deets.

AND…

Today is our FREE Mastery call!

Check out MASTERY to register for the call

We set the intention for you to have the best week, where you feel in command, and you have mastery of the week.

We do some energetic processes and then we hold space for you to get some work done.

We talk about the 5 nonnegotiables, which are 5 key attributes that you could be tapping into to create more with ease.

It’s not always about ‘hustle-do-do-do’ it’s sometimes one of these other 4 nonnegotiables.

One of them is action, but there are 4 other ones that you can possibly tap into to make your creation process way easier.

Go to my website to reg for the call.

I hope to see you there!

Reach out and connect with me to get information about the command program.

Go create like you mean it!

Much love